This post has been in my head and on my heart for days. If I’m being honest, as I always will be, there is always an initial fear of writing on the topic of racism. Largely because of the fear of not being thoughtful enough. There is also the issue of coming across as virtue signaling. That was something I was most worried about. I hope that our readers truly know our hearts and where we come from today. My whole entire blog is based on food, and I don’t get personal too often. However, I want to get personal now, and I hope you do too.
First of all, I acknowledge the fact that as a white woman in this country I have the luxury of completely ignoring, and not saying a word. If we, as white people, continue to stay silent, we do nothing but amplify our own white privilege. So, I myself will put my COMPLETELY UNFOUNDED FEAR of writing on this topic aside. Why? Because I am white, and this isn’t about me, personally. It is however about how we choose to stay silent, or choose to speak out, and stand up.
It’s not enough, and never has been enough to take the stance of “I’m not racist” and then simply move on and ignore the immense, heart breaking, racism against black people in our country. Dan and I both have scoured our hearts and minds, and the truth is that we just don’t have the right words. But, what we do have to offer is ourselves as allies. We have the ability to open ourselves up and feel empathy to everyone in the black community that is struggling, and living in fear, every day but now more than ever.
We also want our readers to know that we raise our children up to be allies as well. Understanding as parents that our true influence starts at home, with our own teenagers, is not lost on us. These issues are addressed at length with them, and the discussion on how we can do better is never ending. They know, and we know that we will truly never understand what it is like to have racism brought upon us. But, although we can’t understand fully, and will never have the right words, and never feel like we can do enough for our black friends and community, YOU will not have to stand alone.
Having said all of this, please note that out of respect, we have decided to cease business as usual for the rest of this week. We do intend to start posting recipes as usual as of next week, on Monday. We know that our blog and recipes are a happy spot away from negativity for many people. So, please do respect this pause, but please know we hear you and will be back shortly.
Here is a great list of resources for anyone that is looking for ways to help. If you have any other resources that are relevant, please let us know!
- George Floyd Memorial Fund
- Minnesota Freedom Fund
- Black Lives Matter
- Race Conscious a Resource For Those With Children
- The Conscious Kid
- Color of Change
- A great list of fiction and non fiction books on antiracism right HERE from USA today.
This post comes from our hearts, with the understanding that our imperfect words are always better than nothing. This post is us seeing, hearing, listening, and wanting to take more action than just a simple media post. This post is acknowledging that we know as white people nothing will change until WE work hard and take action for BIPOC in our country. Now is the time to listen, learn, educate ourselves, be the barrier, speak out, stand up, and more than ever to intervene when we hear or witness racism.
“No one is born hating another person because of the color of his skin, or his background, or his religion. People must learn to hate, and if they can learn to hate, they can be taught to love, for love comes more naturally to the human heart than its opposite.” – Nelson Mandela, Long Walk to Freedom
Nichole & Dan